Wednesday, October 3, 2018
Domestic Violence Awareness Month
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. It is important that you can identify the signs for you or someone you love in order to prevent or stop it. There are many forms of domestic abuse so here are some to help you get in the know. Most are signs before they head to physical abuse.
Verbal abuse: Yelling, name calling, humiliating, insulting, and criticizing. Telling hurtful “jokes” despite your efforts to make them stop. Taking your statements out of context and degrading you in front of family and friends.
Emotional abuse: Making fun and humiliating you in front of others. Disregarding your opinions, suggestions, and needs. Teasing you and using sarcasm in order to put you down and make you feel bad about yourself. They will say you are “too sensitive” in order to deflect their abusive remarks. Try to control you and treat you like a child. Force you to do things you don’t want to do. They belittle your hopes, dreams, and accomplishments. Make you feel as if they are always right and you are always wrong. Most importantly, they point out your flaws, mistakes, and shortcomings, and blame you for their problems, life difficulties, and unhappiness. They make subtle threats in order to frighten or control you and isolate you from other people, even your friends and family.
Academic abuse: they prevent you from studying for tests and working on papers. They say you don’t love them because you spend time doing your work instead of spending time with them. Blaming you for their poor grades. Taking all the same classes as you in order to monitor your behavior during class.
Physical abuse: pushing, pinching or biting, slapping, beating, kicking, spitting on you, and refusing to help you when you are sick or injured.
Sexual abuse: unwanted touching, demanding sex, forcing sex, insisting on anything sexual that frightens or hurts you, withholding sex as a form of control, and controlling your decisions about pregnancy and/or abortion.
There are so many more forms of abuse. If you, or anyone you know has experienced any one of these, it is important that you tell someone or try and help them before physical abuse occurs or worsens. Abuse escalates over time and when someone uses abuse against a partner, it is always part of a larger pattern of control. If you are being abused by your partner, it is normal to feel confused, angry, afraid or trapped; you may also think it is your fault for their abuse, but it is important to know it is not your fault for their abusive actions. Abuse is not caused by drugs, alcohol or stress. It is a choice to be abusive. Take action to protect yourself or the ones you love. Don’t allow things to worsen. You do not deserve to lose your self-confidence, lower your self esteem, diminish your self-worth, and be physically hurt. Know that there are people that love you and will be there for you. Whether it is family or even just a friend. Don’t allow yourself to be controlled. If someone loves you, they should not control you and isolate you, they should make you feel free and loved. Not scared. Take it from someone who knows… Wear purple in order to support the cause. End domestic violence. Recognize it. Report it. Prevent it.